My name is Salma. I am 13. My parents live in a small village here in Tanzania. They could not take care of me and my 4 brothers. So I came to live with my aunty and uncle in the city. I’ve been here since June last year. I was very lonely when I first came to the city.
My aunt and uncle have three big sons. My aunt travels a lot for her business. So I wasn’t very close to her. I felt I had no one to talk to. When I started my period last month, I didn’t know who to tell.
Then I met Naomi! She came to my school last term and she became my desk partner. I was so happy. She’s really nice and also brilliant. I tell her everything. Even when I have problems with boys in school.
Since we are the same age, Naomi said she can’t help me with everything. She said I need an older person to talk to. She said I should talk to my aunt. Just because my aunty travels does not mean we can’t be close. She told me to give her a try before giving up completely. I was a little scared, but I told my aunty about my period last week. She was great! She told me all about what was happening with my body. Even some stuff Naomi did not know!!
Naomi showed me that I don’t have to be scared to share my problems. Adults are usually happy to help, all you have to do is ask! Even if my aunt is away, I can now talk to the guidance counselor at our school. I have found people I can trust. Even my big cousin, Deus. Sometimes, I go to him for advice and he makes things so simple to understand.
Now I know I shouldn’t keep quiet if something is wrong. If you have a problem and need someone to talk to try these tips:
- Find an adult you trust, like your mum or a teacher.
- Think about what to say first and even practice saying it before you begin.
- Imagine the conversation going well, which will help you feel less afraid!
Don't worry if you can't think of an adult close to you, there are lots of other options to reach out to for support this can be your Teacher, uncle, cousin or any adult that you can trust..Adults have a lot of wisdom and experience so don’t be shy. They have the answers!